What a weird way to express anger at somebody…

I guess you can't know what to expect; enemies can be hiding at your own wedding and get in with your invitation. This bride was definitely keeping her enemies close; she just didn't know about it. What makes this revenge ridiculous is that by destroying a gift the other person hasn't even opened yet, you are not actually causing harm; in the end, it's just like never receiving the gift in the first place, so it doesn't really make sense. 

What I do think is that the angry person might have tried to deliver some 'encrypted' message through the broken gift, but honestly, it would've been simpler not to attend the wedding. Some people need to gift their anger to you and enjoy a free meal and a party while they're at it. Also, maybe it was witchcraft? Lol. 

At this point, videos are making us know things we should've never been aware of. I know some people can argue that this is something worth knowing about, but what can this bride really do? If she had never known, she would only have good memories of her wedding and a couple of broken plates; ignorance is bliss. Some things need to be kept quiet, and one of those things is gossip. 

Where are we going to be able to gossip from now on? Will 'camera-free' spaces become an urban phenomenon? Doesn't that defy the principles of gossiping? Shouldn't gossip be a transgression? If we make gossip legal and contained in a determined space, wouldn't it become too constricted? Everybody would know we're going there to gossip; new forms of surveillance would arise to chase us, gossipers. 

I trust in the gossipers of the world that new and creative ways of speaking ill about somebody else will emerge, even in the weirdest of contexts…

Entitlement's new frontiers

Let's face it, some people are looking to take advantage of others to get their needs met without reciprocating.

The dynamic appears perfect to them as long as nobody dares to point it out or ask for something in return. If that happens, they'll use any strategy to return to the statu quo.

This friend's strategy was playing the victim; she's trying to make it seem like he is the ungrateful one. To me, he's just asking for reciprocity. Most of their relationship's story is about him accommodating her wants and needs; this dynamic would be toxic even if theirs was a romantic relationship.

He is allowed to want his needs met as well. The thing is, he is not even asking for that; he knows she doesn't want to do that for him, so he is politely stating he no longer wants to be her emotional-support teddy bear. Everything that happened after he said that is nonsensical to me. But I guess hearing that she'll not get unconditional love and care from her male best friend without giving anything in return is a tough blow for her; it'll probably take her some time to process it.

Maybe the "picky eater" thing is just an excuse to be entitled.

Being a picky eater doesn't mean that you are excused from being entitled. It means that you don't like many foods and have strong preferences when picking what to eat. It never ever means that you can cause a scene because a friend cooked something you don't like or because a restaurant doesn't sell chicken fingers. It just means YOU don't like certain foods, not that it is everyone else's responsibility to find you something you actually like. You are a person who knows how to communicate, so if you are picky with food, then so be it, but that is explicitly a you problem, not anyone else's. Not a server, not your family, not your friends. It's your responsibility to check beforehand whether the restaurant you are going to has any food options you like, or to kindly and nicely express that you don't like any of the options and ask if they can make you something else.

It has become common for some people to make their problems everyone else's problems, like in the story below. We get an entitled sister who, even though she is the one who doesn't like most foods, makes it everyone's problem. She makes a scene over her sister not choosing what she wants to eat so she can copy her, only to refuse to eat it because, of course, she doesn't like it. Why go through all that? Order what you actually want to eat instead of wanting to copy your sister just to hate the food later. CHOOSE, make a decision. It's really not that hard. It would avoid your family a bad time, and it will end up being something she would actually like to eat –I know, shocking!

But well, what can we expect from someone who can't even communicate what she wants to eat or even accept the fact that she can't copy her sister in everything because they don't like the same things? I have no respect for someone who voluntarily wastes food, so I will not defend this girl who is just throwing tantrums and wasting perfectly good food just because she wants to be a copycat. 
 

After being warned that his Microsoft Teams status changed to "Away" every 20 minutes, a remote IT worker wrote a script that kept him permanently available while he spent his afternoons hiking.

Managers worry about all the wrong things. 

Some managers insist on managing through control and proximity, direct observations of employees' time spent working, sitting at a desk, making sure that they're at they're sitting at their computer ready to respond to a message at any time of the day.

But when your management strategy boils down to "watch for yellow light," I think you probably need to rethink your strategy.

The problem with managing in this way is that you're just always behind the wheel. And you're training your team to be behind the wheel too. You're always looking for actions and never at results, and it is this micromanaging that grinds a team down.

This manager insisted that an IT worker always show as available. It pushed him into not working harder, but writing a script that showed he was active at all times.

Would you rip off your own family if it meant getting a benefit for yourself? Seems like some people would…

Some people say that you don't really know your family until it's time to split the inheritance. Well, in the case of this family, they got to know the aunt's true colors way before that. Her niece shared on r/AITAH the story that led her to cut the aunt out of her life. Her parents had built a house in the '90s along with her grandparents, a house that she would inherit when it was time. In the 2010' her grandfather was diagnosed with a condition that affected his memory, and the family made sure to take care of him. What they didn't know is that, while he was vulnerable, one of his daughters, Aunt D, took him to a lawyer to change his will and make herself the sole beneficiary. They found out about it years later by chance, and they had to sell the house so she wouldn't take it for herself, because the grandmother didn't want to "hurt her feelings." This led to the niece cutting her out of her life completely and not inviting her to her upcoming wedding. 

They say that family comes first, but what happens when that family becomes selfish and doesn't care about your well-being? Cutting them off is most likely the right and best thing to do. This aunt ripped off her own father and tried to steal her niece's inheritance, and her mother still forgave her and didn't want to hurt her feelings. What she doesn't understand is that her feelings stopped being important the minute she went after her father's will. A mother is a mother, and they can find the power within them to forgive almost anything, but that doesn't mean the rest of the family should do the same. 

The niece lost the house she was planning to raise her kids in, and she is totally justified in cutting contact with the person whose fault that is. Not inviting her to her wedding is the bare minimum type of revenge.

Give them an inch, and they take a mile. Or that is just the saying, at least.

A family member realizes that you need some help, so they offer for you to stay with them for free till you get back on your feet. You don't have to contribute to anything. No food, no services, no bills. It goes so far that you don't even have to do house chores such as washing dishes or cleaning, because they know you are going through a lot and they prefer you to concentrate on school. Time goes on, and 6 years go by. You finish school and have a job, but you continue to live with the family because supposedly, you still have some debts with school and car loans. They don't expect anything from you, except that you help out a little by doing more chores than just washing your clothes and making your bed. Let's remember, you don't even buy food for the house. You are living 100% for free. You say that you cannot be expected to do more as you already have too much to do.

This family member who was so nice letting you live with them for 6 years and never expected anything in return gets annoyed. You could be more helpful at home. They start talking to your parents, saying how annoyed they are that you can't even do chores, as they are not expecting anything else because they know the financial burden you currently have. All that only to discover that your parents are the ones paying for your loans, and you just spend your money buying things you like and eating out with your boyfriend, who, by the way, is also telling you that you need to cut back on spending.

Now you put the whole family in a weird place where they will need to kick you out, all because you weren't kind enough to appreciate the effort everyone was doing for you and show some gratitude by simply doing chores or paying the wifi. Maybe we get some different options on this story below, but it seems really clear to me. What would you do in this situation? Do you know some entitled people that would take advantage of someone's kindness like this? Would you ever act like this? 
 

What do you do when someone else is taking credit for your work? After a year of rewriting reports and repairing presentations, the employee stopped helping when she learned that her coworker was using those contributions to build her workplace reputation. The employee helped her coworker complete work for a year. But her coworker repeatedly accepted praise for work the employee had shaped. The employee learned that the coworker was using this work to build her standing. The employee stopped helping the cowoker, again, asked her to fix another presentation.

Visibility, proximity, appearance. These things are so much more important in life than you hope they would be. 

The only one responsible for your actions is you…

Some coworkers tend to form a sense of camaraderie among themselves in the office. This group of employees can find a lot of comfort in each other and find ways to help one another when they need to. If they all share one terrible boss, this might even strengthen the group, as having a common enemy can truly bring people close together.

But even if this group of coworkers is close and occasionally works together to get something out of the upper management, that doesn't mean that the coworkers become responsible for one another. At the end of the day, every employee should look after themselves and not involve themselves in someone else's drama. It's a workplace, your not going to war together. Don't put others above your own needs.

If your coworker asks you for a favor that might risk your place in the company, think hard about whether you should agree. Even if you care about them and want them to stick around, you still have to be careful with the help you offer them. Which is why the employee in the story below refused to help a problematic coworker.

This coworker constantly takes long lunch breaks: we're talking two hours of her being gone from the office, instead of the 45 minutes she is actually allowed to take. Since other people in the office started noticing her absence, the coworker asked an employee to cover for her if someone asks about her being gone. Well, as much as the employee might like this coworker, lying on her behalf wasn't something they were willing to do. So, when one day the boss asked about the coworker and wondered why she wasn't at her desk, the other employee answered truthfully, which led the coworker to get in trouble when she was finally back from her extended lunch.

Even though no one other than the coworker is responsible for this mistake, she still blames the employee for refusing to cover for her…

A good friend may lend out their assigned parking spot for free because they don't own a car, and since a friend works nearby, the empty space could be put to good use. But what if you discover that your friend wasn't using your spot and had a side deal with a coworker behind your back?

This "friend" was making money out of a resident's generosity. There was one condition for the deal: the parking spot was for her car only. The resident trusted her friend and handed over the garage fob so she could access the building. What could go wrong? Boundaries were clear, the arrangement was clear…

One day, the building manager reached out about a car that didn't belong to the friend. The resident confronted their friend, and she admitted having given access to a coworker and was charging him $80 a month to use it. She was charging someone for something that didn't belong to her! She didn't even ask the resident or suggest splitting the earnings; she pocketed $80 every single month without letting the owner of the spot know. In her mind, there was apparently no harm in doing that because the owner wasn't using the spot anyway, but she is wrong. And deep down, she knows it. How could anyone rent someone else's parking spot and not even ask for permission or share it with the owner? She took advantage of the situation. 

The resident is right to have ended the arrangement. However, it seems the friend didn't let her coworker know the arrangement had ended because he parked there again and got his car towed by the building's management. Now, the friend dares to be upset with the resident who borrowed her the spot for not giving her a few days to arrange alternative parking with her coworker. The audacity! As the resident put it, renting out something they allowed  her to use for free was "way out of line."

A dream home can quickly become complicated when a family gift comes with invisible strings attached.

Receiving her grandmother's historic home felt like a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, but years later, the gift has become the center of a family dispute. After uncovering mold, structural damage, and investing nearly $100,000 in renovations, the homeowner was stunned when her grandmother demanded the house back, accusing her of ruining it and threatening legal action.

Some things will never be easy to understand for me. I can picture this situation in my family, and I cannot imagine my grandmother regretting gifting me her home and demanding it back after I spent thousands of dollars trying to fix it. Not only that, but she would never demand anything from me after explicitly giving me the house as a gift.

But since this is not about my own family, I'll try to understand what's going on in this situation right here. According to the details that the OP mentioned, the grandma never tried to fix the home to make it safe and have it checked: she only cared about the way it looked, and that's it. Since the woman and her kids moved in, she started fixing it and making it safe and more durable over time. Let's not forget it's a 30-year-old home: it must certainly need a makeover.

I guess that the old lady realized the beauty of the home and remembered how important it was to her, and the RV and her condo could never compare to that house, and that's why she wants it back. Of course, this is not what she's saying out loud, because there's no way you can regret a decision you make about gifting your granddaughter a house. 

The issue is really getting out of hand because now the old lady says she is going to be suing the woman to get the house back, since she stated that the renovations ruined the property and that she's not taking care of the yard as she promised. Really dumb argument if you ask me, but I hope they can have this whole mess sorted out before getting the justice involved.

Home doesn't feel like home when someone else can walk through the front door at any moment.

What began as a few surprise maintenance visits quickly turned into a pattern that left one tenant constantly on edge. Her landlord repeatedly entered the apartment without warning, even while she was home, making her question whether the behavior was legal. Unable to afford moving, she turned to Reddit for advice on protecting her privacy without risking eviction.

I'm a tenant and could never imagine walking home to find the landlord inside my house trying to fix something he never mentioned. At this point, the reason why he's in the apartment is besides the point: he shouldn't be there under any circumstance without telling the tenant first. I can even assume this is trespassing and invasion of private property.

But, at the same time, I understand the weird position that the girl is in. Since she doesn't want to ruin the bond she has with him, she's not saying a word to him, and can't even change the lock to keep him from entering because this would cause some sort of problem. The same with suing him or something like that: this would cause a problem between the two, which is going to jeopardize her lease and her living there.

However, having a conversation with the man and telling him about not entering without discussing it first, or at least mentioning it to her, is not okay. Although he's the owner of the apartment, the home belongs to the tenant, as she pays every month so she can live there. The landlord should be the one realizing that what he's doing is absolute nonsense and that there should be another way to check and fix the issue in the house.

Trying to argue for more benefits can sometimes pitch you out of a job.

The thing about corporate life is that just because something is true, it doesn't mean that pointing it out is a good idea. Maybe the boss is a total megalomaniac, but complaining about it without a solid backup plan is only going to make things complicated, for example. The unfortunate fact is that putting up with ridiculousness often comprises a significant amount of the paycheck.

Of course, the grass always seems greener elsewhere, and it is not wrong to want to broker a better deal for yourself in your job if you think that there is potential. The only caveat is that you have to think carefully about how you are going to do it. Office politics are not just irritating, but they are also something that has to be observed to avoid overly negative consequences. Professionalism is everything under these circumstances.

We all make mistakes sometimes, and our careers are no exception. For the sake of our salaries, though, some blunders should not be made more than once. Just because a change in working circumstances makes sense to you doesn't mean that management is going to feel the same way.

One thing is a family member offering to do something nice, and a very different one is free labor.

There is a common belief that family members are free babysitters, and that is mostly true. If you have a good relationship with your parents or siblings and you have a kid, they are going to be offering all the time to take care of the new family member if you need it. Some will also take that offering as a way to come to your house uninvited with the excuse that you probably need help. Even though that could bother you or not, that is some usual behaviour between families.

In the case of the story below, it started the same way. A sister noticed that her brother and sister-in-law would have too much to do to take care of their kids and the newborn without their usual babysitter (who was out for a while). But that got understood as something completely different. They sent her a plane ticket and gave her a room to stay, only to get some free labor for over 10 hours a day from her. That was definitely not what she was expecting, and now she's feeling pressure to do it even though she is extremely tired.

Truth is, I don't think there is really a villain and a victim. Is mostly, as is common to see in these kinds of stories, a miscommunication issue. This woman was trying to do something nice for the couple and their new baby, and instead she got into an awkward position where she isn't sure whether to stand her ground or just wait for the babysitter to come back. She needs to speak to her brother, be honest, and either go back home or help out less. Whatever her final choice is, I really hope she learns to communicate how she feels because it will bring her even bigger problems in the long run. 
 

Kitchen Confidence Is Built One Cooking Fail at a Time.

I realized, not long ago, that I'm a huge fan of watching fail cooking memes. I don't know what it's about them… but there's something that really speaks to me. Of course, we all know by now that I'm not a cook at all, and I just cook an easy meal to eat at the moment, and that's it. I've never really enjoyed cooking and trying recipes… I just do it because I have to. However, there was a time in my life when I thought I could do something with it, and decided to try cooking to see how it went.

I guess you can estimate what the result was, and what happened to that failed new hobby of mine. What I'll say is that I learnt that cooking fail memes are my jam, and I always find new and interesting ones to indulge in while remembering those days when I thought that I could put together the fanciest dinner on a random Tuesday evening. Needless to say, my favourite plan is to order DoorDashing something nice and scroll on social media so I can find the best of the best fail cooking memes.

If by now you don't think I'm a good person to trust when it comes to meme selection, I don't know what else to do. Trust me when I tell you that, because I'm not good at cooking, I'm great when it comes to finding memes that showcase exactly that… who better to write about fail cooking than a fail cook? Anyways, scroll down and enjoy those great memes.

Do they do it on purpose?

Why does it have to be five minutes before leaving? The same way exes have a radar for when you're doing better, managers have a radar for when you're about to leave. It can be due to poor time management, or simply because they don't want you to have five minutes of freedom before you clock out; but the result is the same: you get a few involuntary extra hours, and they get some half-assed work done. 

The problem with this is that it happens in a work environment, so if you refuse to do the last-minute task and leave a bad impression on your boss, it can cost you something significant (your job, lol). So you truly have to find a really elegant, assertive way to address the topic and try to get your way.

If the cabin crew members wake you up for breakfast, you are mad, but if they didn't, you would be mad as well. Customer service employees can never take a win.

Do customer service workers ever get told that they did something right? Or do they just constantly hear how awful they are at their job? All the stories I have read about working in the servicing industry or employees whose job description has to do with dealing with people are always talking about how badly they get treated by customers. It feels as if they were always accused of doing something wrong and never praised when they go above and beyond for someone's interest. That is completely unfair. As someone who has worked in customer service, customers are sometimes the most disgusting people. They scream at you, threaten you, and even get violent, all because they didn't get an exception they wanted or because their coffee was cold.

All this made me think about how many times I read a Reddit story where a customer said that the service was good, or how many times when I was working in that field I got told thank you. Not many times. And it isn't because employees don't do their job correctly or because they don't deserve that kind of praise, because they do. It's just that sometimes customers focus only on the bad side of their interaction and believe that the employee has to do that, even though sometimes they are just making an exception for them. Taking all these into account, don't you think that employees working in customer service deserve better salaries and more respect? \

Having to deal with these kinds of people who always see a problem with the service and always have something to complain about is draining. Is too much. When you work in customer service, you just want to get out, and that is not fair. If each customer was nicer and kinder, the whole experience would be better. Employees wouldn't feel as if they were always walking on eggshells trying to do the best they can. So put some respect on the people who are working hard trying to provide you with the best service they can. 
 

Should landlords know everything that goes on in a place they rent to other people?

As a renter myself, there are plenty of things I do around my home that I would not want my landlord to know about. My cats have scratched big chunks of our bedroom door, we drill holes in walls we definitely should not have touched, and don't get me started on some of the "renter-friendly" cosmetic changes we made that are definitely not renter-friendly. 

When the time comes to leave, I just hope that we will be able to fix most things, and that our landlord won't notice the things we won't. All we need is our safety deposit back, and we will be out of there as fast as possible.

That being said, if we were a disturbance to our neighbors, I would not have been surprised if one of them contacted our landlord to let him know about it. After all, the landlord is the authority figure in a property, and ensuring the people they rent the property to are decent to those around them is a must. If the renters cause damage to homes around them, they should not be allowed to keep renting, which is why the landlord in this story, posted on r/EntitledPeople, will not be renewing his contract with his current renters.

These renters decided to get an inflatable water slide for their children, but decided to empty the water onto their neighbors' garden, completely ruining their flowers in the process. Since they didn't really show any remorse, the neighbors contacted the renters' landlord and informed him of the issue, which led the landlord to ban his renter from using the water slide again. The renters blamed the neighbors for the ban and decided to knock on the neighbors' door and demand to use their pool instead. They claimed the neighbors "owe it to them", since they were the ones who got the water slide banned.

Safe to say, this warranted another call to the landlord, who realized that he needs a change in the people who live on his property…

What is wrong with people and friendships lately?

It seems that we've reached a point where even the most natural expression of human emotion is read as inappropriate or something that should be contained and restricted, even between friends. 

A girl expressed her worry about being "too emotional" at her friend's wedding on r/AITH. She was happy for her friend, so during the wedding vows, she started tearing up. A few days later, she received an angry message from the bride, saying that her crying had ruined her wedding photos, that she was an attention seeker who had stolen her spotlight, and that she should control herself better. 

With friends like that, who needs enemies? Weddings are a huge milestone to achieve, and a very emotional moment for all friends and family, not just for the bride and groom. Crying is only a natural reaction to a very special moment. It's both out of tremendous joy and also out of mourning of a previous life. 

When a friend of ours gets married, we all feel ecstatic that she found her match in this crazy world. But we also know that her priorities and lifestyle will change, and our relationship with her will not be the same. It is a completely normal and natural thing that it happens that way. The tears are bittersweet, but they're honest and come from the deepest kind of love there is.

Crying, or at least tearing up, at a best friend's wedding is never with the purpose of stealing her spotlight; it's just a natural feeling that we exteriorize in the only way we have. We're not making a scandal, and I highly doubt that this friend was sobbing loudly or inappropriately. Otherwise, someone would have said something at the moment. 

Pristine, perfect photos are pretty, but the ones that transmit the most sentiment are the ones where you can actually see what people are feeling, and those are the ones that will transport us to that very same moment in twenty years. Being emotional doesn't ruin a photo; it brings back to life an otherwise plain image. If the friend cannot understand that, maybe she's not the right person to keep close. Showing emotion is what makes us human, and no one should ask their loved ones to forsake their humanity.

If you didn't bother to tell your employee till 15 minutes before their shift ended, then maybe it's not that urgent.

What is it with these bosses that can't comprehend that when the work shift ends, the employee stops working? It's not that difficult. If an employee is hired to work from 9 am to 5 pm, then why would a boss expect that same employee to be working before 9 or after 5? They don't HAVE to do overtime. That is something they can agree or not to do, and if they do accept, they need to be compensated accordingly. So the fact that they expect these workers to stay several times a week overtime for free is completely outrageous. These employees get in this uncomfortable position whether they have to say no and get labeled as lazy or unprofessional, or say yes and be deemed to do that forever.

In the story below, the employee was put in the position for a long time. Until one day they decided to give up. They were putting so many things on the line just because of their boss's poor planning that it got to a point where they had to set boundaries or their personal life would be over. There needs to be a balance, and that balance can't be reached if you have to stay working late every single week. And all that effort, for what? They do not pay you more for it, the promotion is not secure, and your job becomes your full life.

Employees need to learn how to set boundaries. I know it's hard, but it is extremely necessary. You can't have your boss doing whatever they want with you and exploiting you. Overworking can cause health and psychological problems. You do not need to risk THAT MUCH for a job. You aren't some kind of CEO or founder, so they shouldn't be expecting you to stay overtime just because they failed to do their own jobs. Set boundaries, work just your shift, and have a more balanced life. You already work too much. Don't give away labor for free. 
 

Is it 'being a good friend' or just being taken advantage of? 

When it comes to money issues, short reckonings make long friends. And that's what a roommate shared on /r/AITH. She and her friend split rent 50/50, due on the first of the month. The friend has apparently been short on money lately, so she couldn't pay in time. The roommate was happy to take care of it, with the promise of getting her money back in the next few days. The issue is that this happened three months in a row, and the friend only paid back after her roommate reminded her multiple times. 

We all have issues with money at some point, and we really appreciate it when the people living with us help us get through it. It's very considerate of them, and it speaks well of their character to be generous. But one thing is having them help us when going through a rough patch, and a very different one is to use them as our personal ATM for monthly withdrawals. 

Paying rent is a personal responsibility, even when we share it with other people. The purpose of getting a roommate is to relieve the financial burden of paying rent and living on a single paycheck. If one has to make themselves responsible for the other one's shortcomings, the arrangement stops being mutually beneficial. 

If one realizes that it is not possible to keep the payments in check, maybe it is time to reevaluate the situation. Perhaps it's necessary to administer money better. Perhaps it would be better to move to a more affordable place, or start prioritizing rent and bills over some other things. In truth, no one is responsible for our financial status but ourselves. We love our friends for supporting us when they can, especially if they live with us, but we don't want to be a burden for them. 

In our friends' case, they are completely justified if they ever tell us they can't help with our money issues anymore. They have responsibilities and financial obligations of their own to attend to. We help each other as much as we can, but even generosity has a limit when it becomes an obligation instead of an act of love.