Why is working one day remotely such a big deal?

I'm not one of those people who think everyone should be working all the time remotely. I think it works for some people, especially those who are late in their careers and those who live far from their company's location. For a lot of young people, I think it can be kind of damaging to not have to leave their house in the morning for years and years on end. It doesn't help establish great habits unless they are particularly disciplined, which most people in their early and mid-twenties aren't. 

Although working fully remotely isn't always the best, I don't have any problem with a hybrid schedule. I think working a hybrid schedule can optimize productivity because it's easier to get certain things done at home than at the office. You can do your laundry and meet with your boss who works overseas at the same time! You can pick your kid up from school on your lunch break instead of sitting in the office scrolling on Twitter. 

Reddit user u/RunningMan87 recently took to Reddit to share her conundrum. Her boss works entirely from home, but she is expected to forgo her one remote day a week and return to the office full-time. Does her boss really think that this is going to make her a harder worker? If you ask me, I think that he boss is trying to get her to quit by taking away her privileges. Did I mention that she has parenting responsibilities on Fridays? She needs to pick her child up from school on the occasional early dismissal days, but her boss does not care in the slightest. I am grateful that I don't work for this company! They don't seem to care about their employees. 

When family money comes with unexpected expectations…

An inheritance can get complicated fast when relatives start deciding how someone else should spend it. After receiving $85,000 from his grandmother, one man was asked to give his brother $10,000 for a house down payment. He offered a formal loan instead, but his brother wanted a gift, arguing that helping family was what Grandma would have wanted.

This story is insane! First of all, everyone received the same amount of money (which is great), so they all got to choose what to do with it. Colin decided to buy a house with his wife, but realized they didn't have enough for the down payment, which is fine and normal. The situation, however, starts to become weird when he asks his brother for an outrageous gift: $10,000 dollars from his inheritance.

As we can all expect, the OP refused and told him that he could loan him the money, but not gift it. It's a whole other game: losing $10,000 because his brother cannot afford the house… why doesn't Colin pick another house that's within his limits? No, this is not what happened. The brother got mad because the OP was cold and didn't respect what Grandma would have wanted, which is to help each other.

But this has nothing to do with help! We're talking about a very expensive gift! If both brothers got the same amount of money, each of them should be able to do whatever they want with it, and that includes not gifting to each other, because we all know that's not what Grandma would have wanted. I hope they can find a solution to this situation and that the conflict didn't escalate too much.

A groom-to-be questions whether his fiancée should have any say over a $1,000 gift to his brother from his personal savings after their wedding budget grows from $30,000 to over $40,000.

It's easy to get emotionally attached to the idea of a dream wedding. But where does the dream end and reality set in? And, for that matter, how much should your partner have say over how much you choose to spend on family?

For the couple, this is (potentially) a once-in-a-lifetime event and a chance to celebrate your relationship. And this is also your one chance to force everyone you know to celebrate you and your relationship. Not only that, it's really the only time in life you can hold everyone you know to ransom to celebrate you since your birthdays as a child. And the only time after your wedding when this will happen is your funeral. 

Anyways, on that pleasant thought, there's so much pressure mounting because of the cost (which increased with every guest you added) and the fact that so many people (that you invited) will be there to witness it. It may not necessarily be fashionable to hold a large grand wedding (in this economy?), but there are those among us who still value this and are willing to sacrifice the cost of a car on holding a big celebration.

Disagreements on spending aren't simple. People have different values from both how they were raised and from their own making about what necessitates responsible spending, and what is a waste. Some may consider giving generously to a sibling to be a given. Another would never do that and might think that it's obscene.  

Comparisons and challenging each other add to this, and over time the resentment can grow. For those who maintain separate personal accounts, as many do in this modern era, these disagreements can get even more complicated. Even when you contribute equally toward shared expenses, there comes a point where you start thinking about what your common goals and earnings are. 

This groom wants to give his brother $1,000 as a wedding gift, but his fiancée argues that the money should go toward their own wedding. The couple originally agreed to spend $30,000, and each contributed $15,000, but the projected cost increased to $40,000. The couple agreed to save monthly toward the difference, although the groom says he has been saving while his fiancée plans to rely on a theoretical future bonus. As she continues to add to the wedding budget, she has proposed another $5,000 in additions. The groom doesn't want to do this and believes he should remain free to use his personal money for his brother's gift

What do you think the answer is here? Take a look at his explanation that he shared below and take a look afterward at some of the responses that his post received. It's a very complex issue with no one right answer.

Don't do the action if you're not ready for the consequences…

Would you rather be fired and leave the workplace for good on the same day, or be given notice so you have a few weeks to prepare, but you still have to work for a company you know no longer wants you?

Neither option is great, if we're being completely honest. Getting fired is never a fun scenario, and whether you're told to pack up your bags and leave immediately or to go back to your desk and keep working, you lose either way. The option one would prefer probably depends on the attitude of the workplace that is letting you go.

If the company is apologetic and attempts to make it right by making the offboarding process as easy for you as possible, then you might feel okay about staying for a few weeks before leaving for good. If the company is anything like the one below, where they made a fired employee stay on for weeks to train his own replacement, no one should act surprised when that same employee uses the time he has left to plan revenge on the company that wronged him.

I wish I had come up with this vindictive idea every time I was followed around in stores.

This is proof that sometimes 'intuition' just isn't right. Some security guards and employees feel like you're onto something, and they are probably basing their opinion on some deep-rooted prejudice or the fact that you look like someone they dislike.

I wish I had come up with this idea because sometimes it's nice to rub a mistake in a prejudiced employee's face. She might have lost some time choosing her home's new decorative objects and clothes, but it was probably worth it given she taught that employee an important lesson.

To be fair, we don't know whether he learned the lesson or she just caused him an inconvenience, but either option is fine to me. She can go ahead and have a blast choosing decorations for her home somewhere where she is not being actively judged or followed around.

I think she was supposed to post this under the subreddit /pettyrevenge and not /maliciouscompliance, but it can be viewed as an example of both; nothing better than being compliant and showing your bag when you actually haven't got anything to hide.

I wonder what features the employees were observing when they thought she was a suspicious client; Are they not accustomed to people buying many products in their store? Lol.

Why would a boss be so horrible that he asked his employee to commit fraud?

Committing fraud is a crime. I think we all know that, except a couple of bosses who seem to have forgotten. Workplaces can be hard due to several different things. Sometimes it's because of unimportant things such as leaving the communal kitchen dirty or speaking too loudly in the public areas. Or it can be due to something difficult, such as having a boss who mistreated you, or, like in the case of the story below, because your boss is persuading you to commit fraud for "the good of the department". As if they seem to have forgotten that it is a felony and most people wouldn't agree to do that ever.

Sometimes bosses forget that, after all, they are just people. They seem to believe that they are some kind of sacred entities who have the right to do and ask for whatever they want, no matter the circumstances. That kind of thought can be very dangerous in a work environment, as it can cause several problems between employees. They cannot be demanding things as if they were some kind of god. And no employee should be pressured to do something that is simply wrong. No matter who asks you to commit fraud, there is no reason for you to ever do it. And leaving as this person did is the best thing you can do for yourself and your career.

Having values is important, especially if you have a boss who thinks that they can ask for anything and that you will comply. You are a human being with a brain and rights. Do not comply with something you don't think is correct ever. And in the case of something complicated like fraud. Go to the correct authorities. Leaving is a good decision, but not the only way out of this situation. Is important that we are clear about what we know is right and what is wrong. We need to put our judgment over anything, even a boss. 

If you're a new in-law, you better be on your best behavior.

Meeting your significant other's family can be a big deal. You probably want to put your best foot forward and make sure that you make a good impression on them. First impressions can be a big deal, and that can follow you throughout your relationship with somebody. Odds are, you want a good relationship with your in-laws. Even if you don't see them that often, it's probably important to you that they hold a high opinion of you and you hold a high opinion of them. Even if you don't always get along all the time, and you have different outlooks on life, you still want to be in each other's lives. If they're important to your partner, then they should be important to you. And it's on you, as it is in law, to meet them halfway. You don't have to believe everything they say, or even be on the same page about basic life stuff, but you do have to respect each other. Respect is the bare minimum for anybody that you encounter on this earth. The sister-in-law in the story didn't even have that, though. She, for some reason, had a very tense relationship with her future mother-in-law, and she was not doing anything to make that better. 

I know celebrating a wedding with not much savings is hard, but don't make it harder for everyone else.

Weddings are a complicated matter. They are extremely expensive. You have to take care of a bunch of things, and you need to have everything organized to the T. The bride in the story below had some problems with that last thing. She wasn't particularly organized or planned ahead. She made a last-minute decision and decided it would work out. She decided to have a wedding reception at a restaurant. There is nothing wrong with that, but there is if you don't notify the staff and simply make 4 separate reservations at the same time without letting them know, and the guests you invited as well.

When this friend told the story about this bride, a lot of people had a lot to say about it. All along the lines of "this isn't going to work at all". And I get it. It sounds kinda insane. Too many people, one restaurant, nobody knows about this crazy plan. But it didn't have to end in disaster. As a matter of fact, it didn't. Everyone was so sure this was going to be the worst wedding reception that they forgot the part where social media isn't real life.

When somebody does something wrong in the socials is usual to see a bunch of anonymous people go to their throats to cancel them or remind them of the mistake they made. But that doesn't happen in real life. When you do something wrong, your friends won't come at you to reprimand you. They will just tell you. And people you don't know aren't going to care about the mistake you made. With all this, I want to say that everyone was so sure of how bad this reception was going to be that they forgot that in real life people go out of their way to help each other. When the restaurant heard that it was a reception, they did everything they could for it to go as smoothly as possible. And that is why social media will never be real life. 

Would you spend thousands of dollars on vacation while your family is struggling to pay rent?

After losing her finance job, this mother has stretched her savings, taken odd jobs, and relied on relatives to keep her family afloat. Meanwhile, her husband works part-time and now insists on spending thousands to attend a destination wedding. With rent already behind and borrowed money covering bills, she cannot understand why a tropical vacation is even up for discussion.

Let me confess that when I read this story, I couldn't believe my eyes… how crazy people can be sometimes. In this case, the "husband" (with quotes, because he doesn't even deserve that title) was so infatuated with going to this wedding that he even forgot that the family didn't have any money to pay the rent on their home. Not having enough to cover basic costs has to give you a sign that things are not going in the right direction…

I do understand that we all deserve good things from time to time, and that's okay to enjoy a tropical vacation and a wedding… but not if the family cannot afford it. According to the story shared in r/relationship_advice, the only reason as to why the family was not evicted from the house is because they managed to get some money from friends to cover rent and basic taxes. And somehow, the husband insists he goes on this trip and spends thousands of dollars.

Honestly, how can he be so selfish? They have two kids to feed, and their unemployed friend, by the way, is also staying in the house with them. Sometimes, life teaches hard lessons from time to time, and this is the time when they should be ready to make a life change and to make good decisions when it comes to their finances.

Office affairs play out like a daytime soap opera written by someone who has never met a subtle person. The boss, the young woman, the wife asking questions, the assistant caught in the middle. Everyone is playing a role in the drama, and the script is painfully obvious

A 27-year-old from logistics decides the director is her new main character. She ignores the chain of command like it is a suggestion box. She makes his coffee before the actual assistant can get there. She books his trips. She brings homemade desserts. She brags about lunch dates outside the office like she is collecting achievements. The boss entertains it because having a personal fan club is apparently part of the job description now.

The only unexpected, and also great, part of this is that this woman asked r/whatdoIdo and pretty much immediately decided what's right for her.

Financial support turned into an expectation, and saying so ended their six-year relationship.

After years of helping his girlfriend with business expenses, family needs, and other costly requests, one man finally decided his savings needed to come first. He wanted to invest and eventually buy a house, so when she asked for another large sum, he said no. Her response was immediate: she ended their six-year relationship and blocked him everywhere.

It's normal to take things for granted when they go on for a lot of time. In this case, we have a girlfriend who has been receiving money from her boyfriend in order to financialy sustained her business. At first, he was happy to help as he felt that he was also a part of it. As time went on, the requests for money increased, and even her family demanded money from him, which he paid.

However, after six years of lending money and a lot of struggles in the relationship, he decided to cut it and never give the woman money ever again. Of course, she felt betrayed and sad, causing her to end a six-year relationship that had been going on since they were kids. They even did long-distance for three years, meaning there had to be a stronger bond between them that went beyond money… but this was not the case.

Although he did well not giving more money, which caused him to lose this woman, I can see if he feels betrayed himself. Because he was. If that were me, I couldn't help but wonder if all along the relationship was only "working" because of the money, rather than love or compassion. Life taught him a good lesson here, and now we hope that he can find a girl who's willing to be with him for what he is, and not for the money he can provide.

All's well that ends well. Right?

After missing two shifts during his first two months at an Idaho stocking job, an hourly worker faced a mandatory meeting… and questioned whether he would be paid for attending. Luckily, it all worked out for the best when he received a job offer 40 minutes before the meeting was to take place.

It can be hard to manage your life in places of work and industries that have draconian attendance policies. Where any missed shift or calling out from work can become a negative impression, a black mark against your name, in the eyes of a begrudging manager and ownership. And once you're there, it's really hard to come back from it. Even if you have a good reason for missing work, it's going to be seen as absenteeism. 

This can get hard when a few things in life inconveniently string together, be it personal pressures like several family emergencies, or other personal misfortunes, or just that seasonal flu you can't seem to shake. They might all be good reasons, but plenty of managers are going to start giving you proverbial glares over passive agressive texts messages as soon as they perceive a "trend."

Definitely, the worst thing you can do if you don't have reliable trust built between yourself and an employer is reveal too much information or insight. Trying to overexplain yourself will:

1. Make you look like you're exaggerating in order to justify the missed work, or just straight making up an excuse.
2. Not going to be interpreted in the way you want it to be.

Everyone has a different opinion of what constitutes a "family emergency" or hardship, and just because your family is insisting that helping your aunt move is a vital and collective family effort doesn't mean your boss, who hasn't talked to their own aunties in 30 years, is going to see it that way.

See the employee's original account of events, and the screenshots of the exchange with his boss that he shared below. Then we'll take a look at the employee's own summary he gave and some of the advice others shared before talking more about these issues.

Maybe don't go around accusing customers of stealing if you want them to return.

I wouldn't return to a store that not only had an employee watching me the whole time I was shopping there but also accused me of stealing without showing me any proof they had to think that in the first place. And I most definitely would never buy anything from a place like this, and if I did, I would return it immediately. With this series of affirmations, you can realize that I completely agree with the actions the customer of the story below took. This person had an awful experience shopping because of the employees working there. People who, without any kind of proof, decided that the customer was a robber. We always talk about customers behaving incorrectly and giving employees a hard time. But we don't talk enough about how some employees seem to have as their job description to make the customer have an awful time at their store.

Customers can be annoying, entitled, completely lack manners, and be disruptive. I agree with that, 100%. But that doesn't excuse employees from mistreating every customer just in case they are one of those. We can see online a thousand stories about an entitled customer, but stories like this one don't usually make the cut. They aren't that common, but it is really sad when they happen. Employees are the face of a store. If they treat you well, you will return. If they don't, you won't. Is pretty simple. Hiring an employee who's apathetic or very serious can cause problems for the business, as the customers don't feel welcome, and the business starts to decrease till it has to close.

For your business to thrive, especially given the recent social climate, you must treat customers right. A lot of entitled customers have started to use the phrase "the customer is always right" incorrectly. It doesn't mean that anything they ask for has to be done. It means that you have to treat them the right way, with respect. After all, they are the ones keeping your business alive by spending money on it. 

Perhaps a job interview is a popularity contest in more ways than one.

Interviewing for a role is tricky by design. Not only does a candidate have to put a lot of effort into selling themselves and making sure they look like the best fit for the job, but they also have to face all the potential tricks that an interviewer might play to trip them up. As if the pressure of multi-stage interviews and pre-interview tasks wasn't stressful enough, facing a potential employer in conversation can prove to be playing office politics in expert mode. It takes experience to succeed, unless you already have your foot in the door.

Even those who have earned their stripes in the war of the job search can find that it is possible to be surprised by an interviewer. They are always finding novel and interesting ways to make potential employees feel uncomfortable in their decision to apply to a job. While it is important to challenge a job candidate who wants to take a role with a company, few are going to feel good about being employed at a place where playing psychological games is the norm from the interview stage onwards. It sets a bad precedent.

Job descriptions are not buffet plates you can load up with as many things as you want, but that doesn't stop some managers from trying to pile on tasks they want you to do and pretend the rest of the menu doesn't exist

Their goal is always the same. Get one person to do the work of three while swearing the contract says so. This time it's a developer who joins a team that is already hemorrhaging people. No projects land on the desk. Everyone twiddles thumbs and comes and goes as they please. Then someone higher up asks what the team is actually doing. Suddenly, busy work floods in like a dam broke.

One last annoying inconvenience before he leaves for good!

It can be easy to start feeling secure in your place at your company. After all, if you're meeting or exceeding your targets, your company has no reason to lay you off, right? 

There are different types of employees in a company's structure, and some of them have very good reasons to feel secure in their jobs. If you have been working the same position for 20 years and never ask for more than the slightest raise, if you even ask for a raise at all, you have cause for security. A company isn't going to get rid of a loyal and cheap employee for no reason, unless they suddenly decide to axe the entire department and replace it with AI! But that would never happen to a good old reliable employee, right? 

The other type of "secure" employee is the striver. They work hard day in and day out to ensure they do the best work possible and do more than was ever expected of them. They might assume that because they are willing to do everything for their company, their company will be willing to do everything for them, and that's just not true. 

The employee in this story, u/rockpaperblr thought he meant more to his company than he did. He seemed to do everything right, but that didn't stop him from losing his job to layoffs. He took to the internet to share the story of his last day at the office and some wisdom he drew from the experience. 

Borrowing someone's parking spot is one thing, but moving their car without permission and getting it towed is another.

Coming home from vacation to a $909 bill was definitely not the welcome she expected. While she was away, her roommate entered her bedroom, grabbed her spare keys, and moved her car so a visiting friend could have the prime parking spot. The car ended up in a tow-away zone, but when she returned, neither of them volunteered to cover the cost of their mistake.

I disagree with the OP here: I would never let anyone touch my car. I understand that she left for vacation and told one of the girls that she could use it, and it seemed she was very careful with it and even helped her file a police report so the woman could enjoy her vacation in peace. However, things got out of hand whenever the other roommate decided to take the car and move it so her friend could use that parking spot.

The car got towed and ended up costing $909 to get it back, which is an insane number if you ask me. The worst part? None of the roommates decided to help with the bill, leaving the writer with nothing but tears and a lot of money missing from her account. When things like this happen, the person who is responsible for the mistake should be the one covering the cost.

The community in r/AITAH suggested that she should demand the money from them to cover this huge bill, because it was not her fault that one of the roommates decided to take the spare keys and move the car without hesitation or question. Also, this comes down to respecting others' privacy and personal belongings. No one should be touching others' things without permission because things can escalate and end like this.

After a gas station employee repeatedly ignored a retail manager's requests to stop occupying one of the store's three customer spaces, her attempt to evade the parking signs got her towed.

I think that the main problem here is the fact that the gas station's employee clearly banned her from parking her vehicle on site, expecting her just to magically teleport to work every day. Well, that and her attitude. If she had been nice about it, one of the neighbors might have actually let her park her vehicle close by. I get not wanting to walk far to your vehicle, especially alone and at night and in some areas where it's not necessarily safe to do so. There's a way to go about things, and if you aren't willing to do so, you should be ready for the consequences. In this case, paying hefty towing and impound fees.

What do I know about anti-employee rules while parking on site? Well, in university, the cafe I worked in was in a very ritzy outdoor mall with extremely strict parking rules. 

What do you think of this situation? We'll take a look at the original story first, and then I'll share my experience before we look at what others had to say. Leave a comment down below if you have input.

In-laws and business just don't mix. 

Has someone ever asked you to help them get a job, and you instantly knew it would be a bad idea? You might love your best friend with all of your heart, but know that if they ever got hired at your company based on your referral, it would be the end of both of your jobs. 

I don't say this to mean that business and family can never mix. There are plenty of people who hire their kids and have great working relationships. The problem is when people hire their kids for roles they aren't qualified for. That can make the rest of their employees lose their respect for them quickly. 

The mother-in-law and business owner in this story took to r/AmITheA**hole to ask the public whether she was in the wrong for refusing to hire her son's wife because she doesn't trust her to be a good employee. Unsurprisingly, most members of this subreddit didn't think she was wrong for putting the integrity of her business above her daughter-in-law's potentially hurt feelings. 

Tipping culture will always be a problem

When we discuss tipping culture, we always get to the same conclusion. It probably wouldn't be needed if restaurants paid their servers more than minimum wage, but it would imply an increase in food prices. But today the argument is different. We aren't really discussing if a server deserves a 20% tip. We are discussing if a girl who puts up a lemon stand and overcharges it because it's the only drink available in that place is allowed to guilt-trip people into tipping by yelling out loud the question "do you want to leave a tip?". And… is it? Well, that is something we can either agree or disagree on, but it probably won't stop this girl from doing it.

I can definitely agree on two things about the story below. Firstly, $11 for a glass of lemonade is insane. It's not just overpriced. It's literally more expensive than buying a lemonade soda from the supermarket. Secondly, asking for a tip after paying an overpriced amount for a lemonade glass is also insane. Especially if we take into account that this business was in a food truck, so tipping isn't really something you should expect. It's almost like a self-service. But I do agree on one thing: the girl has the right to ask for a tip, and you, as a customer, have the right to say no. She can ask. Whether it makes you uncomfortable or puts you in a weird position is your problem. She can definitely ask for a tip in her business. And you are a grown adult. If you can't say no and feel guilt-tripped, then it's your problem. That girl had every right to ask for a tip, and it is your responsibility to say no if you don't want to give it.

So really, is the problem tipping or the fact that the girl asked you out loud and you couldn't deal with the shame? If you were sure you didn't want to tip for an overpriced lemonade, then why don't you just do it? It's not that hard. How it makes YOU feel being asked for a tip is yours, and just your, problem. The girl had the right to ask. This user should have had the courage to speak up for himself instead of complaining online about it.